If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that I love listening to a podcast called the Gilmore Guys (they talk about episodes of Gilmore Girls, if you couldn’t guess. It’s super hilarious, you should check it out) and in one of their recent episodes, Demi (one of the Gilmore Guys) mentioned a quote that he heard on the show Bojack Horseman and how it really impacted him. Guys. This quote. It is so simple, but like… it kind of blew my mind in how true it is.
Right?!?!?!? I think that it is seriously one of my new favorite quotes. It’s my new dating mantra. (You know, for when I eventually start dating, whenever that will be.) I’ve seriously been telling it to anyone that will listen. My friend that just went through a big break up- she heard it. A girl from my bible study group that just started dating a new guy- she heard it. Another friend who isn’t dating anybody and we weren’t even talking about guys or dating- she heard it.
It’s just so true, isn’t it? Being with someone at first can totally make you view them in such a different way and put them on a pedestal and then it’s like you have blinders on and can’t see that hmm, they might actually be a horrible human being and maybe I shouldn’t spend my time with said horrible person. And then if people try and tell you that hey, you’re with a horrible human being you start to try and justify the things that they say or the things that they do. You might try and tell your friends that they ‘just don’t know him’ or ‘just don’t get it’ and all of those red flags that everyone else can so OBVIOUSLY see, just look like regular old flags to you. Hopefully, eventually, we start to see things clearly and realize that the relationship isn’t as magical as we thought and that person isn’t the best thing since sliced bread.
Anyway, I just wanted to share this quote because it is amazing and I feel like everyone needs to see it and use it and share it and apply it and appreciate it. So there it is. You’re welcome.